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- "wearing a wedding ring to work can result in a gay worker being legally fired in 29 states. In most states, LGBT people can also still be refused service and denied housing, and there are no laws protecting LGBT students against bullying in schools" [1]
- other workplace discrimination [2]
- restrictions on blood [3]
- right to adopt [4]
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Legal equality
I did not say that everywhere had absolute equality for all people, I merely stated that most places in the western world do, and generally speaking the trend has been moving in that direction. Therefore because in most places legal equality has been reached, I believe asserting that legal equality has been reached is a fair assessment. Also on the refusal of service note that was raised, in all but one state (California) service can be refused for something as petty as ‘unconventional dress’, and in fact a case could be made for refusing service for almost anything so long as it is consistently applied.
Sexualisation
A music video showing a mostly naked girl dancing does not inherently discuss sexual activities, and yet still many would consider such videos to be sexualised and negative. Talking around sex has the same effect as talking about it. Is sex all people should be talking about?
Bullying and Suicide
Suicide statistics are very dangerous to use to attempt to prove anything. Pro stated that LGB people are twice as likely as others to have suicidal thoughts or make suicide attempts, which according to pro shows that LGB people are oppressed and we are very far from equality. Men are four times more likely to commit suicide than women (source) – does this mean that feminism has gone far too far, we are living in a massive matriarchy and that men are now very oppressed, more so than LGB people? Just because two things are correlated does not mean they directly cause each other. Particularly with suicide, there are many factors that contribute to the overall effect.
With the quoted increased bullying rates, I would again argue that there is a difference between correlation and causation. The reason people of certain sexual orientations are bullied more, is the same as the reason why boys who are not good at sport are bullied: hegemonic masculinity (and hegemonic femininity also leads to bullying in girls). This point embodies both Connell’s and Gramsci’s ideas - of cultural ideals that are considered proper for each gender to adhere to, and any and every deviance from that is considered bad. This is why girls who are good at sport are sometimes bullied, because they don’t fit the culturally defined standards of femininity. Thus this is not at all a problem of sexual orientation, and it would be a grave mistake to address it as such, because it is much larger than that. But the solution to this problem, is the same as the solution to the sexual orientation problem, as I have been proposing it. Research has also indicated that there are many aspects of a bullying victim’s life (parenting/attachment, negative affectivity, coping mechanisms etc) that can affect social interaction and increase the likelihood of being bullied[1]. Insecurities that come from growing up in an environment where something as simple as sexual orientation matters can massively compound this. My point here is that this is a complex problem, with a lot a factors, which I feel Pro is oversimplifying.
The quoted gay bullying statistics were from Manchester (UK), where there have been massive efforts to encourage people to declare their sexual orientations, and where large charities, such as the LGBT Foundation (quoted by pro) and the Proud Trust are based and have been working for more than 30 years, holding massive events (just the ‘pride’ pro has been talking about), and yet seemingly nothing has changed. This would indicate that perhaps the strategy of creating conflict might be fundamentally flawed.
Pride
The word ‘pride’ truly is an interesting word, embodying both self-esteem and gratification. Identity cannot be wholly removed from an individual, it is and must be a part of that individual, and thus is embodied in pride. Pride is a sense of confidence, comfort and satisfaction one attains from one’s own identity. I mentioned in my first round that identity can be thought of in two ways, self-defined and as defined by others. Self-defined identity ispride when and only when one is happy with this identity, which for the majority of identities people are. The argument Pro is essentially making, is that people of certain sexual orientations do not feel as though their particular sexual orientation is positive or gratifying, or in the very least that others do not, and that this must be changed to better their feeling of self-worth. Lack of self-esteem is something that, again, is a very complex issue that is often over-simplified. Claiming that declaring ones sexual orientation leads to or entails pride is a sweeping assertion. In my first round I showed how it leads to social problems and conflict – which usually has the opposite effect to creating ‘pride’.
Social Issues
This debate is about whether sexual orientations should be a perpetual issue that will and should always continue, or whether solutions to this issue should be found. What is the best way to create and maintain total equality between people of different sexual orientations? The solution is to move towards making sexual orientation into a non-issue. This is not the same thing as ignoring the problem. When a doctor cures a disease with medicine, that doctor isn’t ignoring the fact that the patient has a disease, the doctor is making the disease into a non-issue for the patient. This can be done (as has already been in most places) legislatively, which changes social attitudes over time, as what was once normal ebbs away and a new normal arises. It can also be done by using the age-old anti-bullying technique of ignoring the bullying, and then police forces etc reacting strongly when hate-crimes are committed. No conflict at all is needed. By creating conflict, all that is happening is that the issue perpetuates itself and worsens, because of the ‘us’ and ‘others’ mentality that arises, as I discussed in my first round.
Even if all societal harms were to be ignored, and only the feelings of certain LGB individuals who had gone through immense hardship were to be considered, the strong promotion of people declaring their sexual orientation would still be a bad thing. By declaring their sexual orientation they only further isolate themselves from their peers and thrust them at the centre of a conflict, at a time when they themselves might still be very fragile. This can lead to more bullying and leave them worse off than they were before.
A note on exclusivity
None of what I have written is mutually exclusive with support networks/counselling services etc, as these can really help people that need it, not only on sexual orientation issues but generally. My argument is solely about the strong promotion of people declaring their sexual orientation. There is a big difference between positive steps towards full equality everywhere and steps towards conflict.
Final note
It also has not been answered why my analysis on social cleavages is wrong, and why conflict wouldn’t be created. Alongside seemingly no permanent solution, is the strong promotion of people declaring their sexual orientation really a good thing? Does it ‘educate’ people, or divide them? Is education really what is needed?
If it did not matter to people what sexual orientation they were, would people feel no pride in their sexual orientation?
[1] Hansen, T., Steenberg, L., Palic, S., & Elkit A. (2012). A review of psychological factors relating to bullying victimization in schools. Aggression and Violent Behaviour, 17(4), 383-387. doi: 10.1016/j.avb.2012.03.008
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What I would like to prove is that a strong promotion of people declaring their sexual orientation leads to a better discussion about acceptance of non-traditional relationships and increases the probability that people will accept their sexual orientation much easier. If I can prove those two things, I can prove that it should not be regretted. The clash so far has been wether or not a strong promotion leads to greater acceptance or conflict, at what stage in the journey towards equality we are currently in and how we get the most effective discussion on LGBT+ issues. I will attempt in this speech to win my contentions within the clash points that have been discussed so far.
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Legal Equality
In Pro’s first round, 4 bullet points were given as to how legal equality had not been reached. In my second round, I pointed out why the first point was absurd: refusal of service for most reasons is legal in most states, there are no laws protecting anyone from bullying in most states, and the Employment Non-Discrimination Act has been introduced to every congress since 1994 often with majority support, and has been gaining traction to the point it will inevitably be law very soon. Note also, this is only a list of ‘facts’ that are true in the USA; the western world is much bigger than that. The second bullet point was about workplace discrimination, which is either covered in the Non-Discrimination Act or a societal issue. With blood donations homosexual sex is on a list of 10 high risk behaviours (risk of blood contamination with HIV) that the FDA has written to proect the purity of blood donations. All it says is that the FDA considers 12 months to be a reasonable time-frame for definitive HIV testing to occur, and thus this is the stand-down period for people that have engaged in homosexual sex before they can give blood. 3 of these examples relate to only the US, one refers only to Italy. This is not indicative of the ‘western world’, and even within the examples, the truth was stretched. Isolated examples of stretched examples of ‘discrimination’ are not proof of inequality.
Sexualisation
Inherently in seeking to continue the sexual orientation conversation for much longer than it has to, a discussion about sexual preference, with regular events and encouraging people to declare their sexual preferences, a conversation about nothing other than sex is occurring.
Discussions
I have not once mentioned any form of conflict that occurs or needs to occur between religious people and people of certain sexual orientations, and I feel it a debasement of this debate to bring it to that level. I feel that in the same way as you feel that ‘religious’ people are misinformed about lgbt issues, you are misinformed about religious issues. A belief in biblical inerrancy is not a prerequisite to being a Christian. I will point you in the direction of two websites: http://www.mpvusa.org/lgbtqi-resources/ http://time.com/4177151/pope-francis-new-book/ … You are assuming that all religion is negative and that atheism is the only path to morality. I’m not going to write much more on this topic because as a whole, it is irrelevant to this debate. If you are not willing to inform yourself about issues that are important to other people, how can you expect people to inform themselves of issues important to you? This is also not a debate on the pitfalls of mass-immigration.
That being said, I have already shown how the strong promotion of people declaring their sexual orientation, would have negative outcomes for both political and social discourses. This analysis has been ignored by Pro. I have also comprehensively rebutted pro’s interpretation of how discourses play themselves out, and this is yet to be expanded upon. Simply stating ‘but religious people hate homosexuals’ does not expand on or prove anything.
Victimisation
Just to expand on and reiterate what I said in round 2 about bullying… I have stated throughout this debate that ‘Pride’ destroys its namesake. Simply asserting this is not true is not enough, Pro has not and still needs to show how it is that all of my harms of ‘Pride’ are wrong, as well as how the ‘benefits’ of pride will come to fruition. I have shown how instead of increasing self-esteem amongst people of different sexual orientations, it destroys it. It creates conflicts in communities, increases the likelihood someone would get bullied. Pro still has not provided any evidence as to why social cleavages wouldn’t be created.
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Legal Inequality
"And it gave me hope. It gave me the hope to live my life. It gave me the hope one day I could live my life openly as who I am and that maybe even I could fall in love and one day get married."
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I want to summarise two things: Does this create conflict or solve it and what is the effect on individual LGBT+ people.
- we have approximately reached legal equality at least in westernised liberal democracies
- to continue strongly promoting people coming out creates social cleavages and conflict because the issues have been solved
- conflict is bad because you can't discuss things properly
- it is not correct to approximate our situation to legal equality even in westernised liberal democracies
- conflict and social cleavages around the idea of LGBT+ happened long before we celebrating coming out
- yes conflict is difficult but promoting people coming out allows us to challenge the reasons that the conflict exists
- Being LGBT+ becomes your defining characteristic
- Not everyone can be proud of their sexual orientation
- The promotion of "Pride" decreases individuals self confidence
- The status quo is to ignore peoples sexual orientation
- Promotion of coming out shows people an example of how they can accept who they are
- "Pride" allows people to see that you can be LGBT+ and happy and loved
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@admin Thank you will try this out next timePosted 2016-02-28 21:15:40
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Also feel free to at-tag me for techy questions.
There's 2 buttons for images, one that lets you upload an image from your computer, and one that lets you add an image from an external URL.
Imgur (which I use for hosting debate argument images) recently changed how their uploads are handled. So for a while, the "Upload" option isn't working. Fixing this is a priority feature for me.
In the meantime, the workaround is to use the other button. Basically find some website that lets you host images, and paste the direct link to the image file in the "Insert Image" thingy.
I like pasteboard.co or postimage.org , but any image host will do.Posted 2016-02-28 10:02:35
sorry for the double comment that wasn't intended.Posted 2016-02-28 04:09:33
How do I put an image into my argument? Tried and it won't appear. Dunno what I am doing wrong.Posted 2016-02-28 04:08:57